A loving home environment does not mean a naive one. When parents hide a job loss, children sense the tension and assume they are the cause. When parents pretend a marriage is fine, children internalize the dissonance.
The homes that last are not the ones without cracks. They are the ones where light gets in through the cracks, where 'I'm sorry' is spoken often, and where every person—from the smallest to the eldest—knows one thing for certain:
The old rule: Protect the children from reality. The new rule: Protect them from helplessness , not from reality.
