So the next time you see a video of an ustazah publicly shaming a young mother over her nail polish or a teenager over his shorts, remember: you have a choice. You can share it with a laugh and a label—“kantooi ustazah terlampau”—or you can be part of a kinder alternative. Gently remind the corrector of the Prophet’s way. Privately support the corrected. And pray for a community where religious guidance feels like a warm hand, not a public whip.
Have you experienced or witnessed “kantooi ustazah terlampau”? Share your thoughts below (with names and places removed, please). Let’s discuss how we can build a more compassionate religious culture. kantooi ustazah terlampau
Yes, Islamic teachings include accountability. Yes, commanding good and forbidding wrong is a noble duty. But as the Quran reminds us: “Call to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best.” (Surah An-Nahl, 16:125) So the next time you see a video
No “kantooi” required.
They are saying: “We respect religious learning, but we do not respect cruelty.” They are drawing a line between tarbiyah (nurturing education) and tahqir (humiliation). Privately support the corrected